COVID 19: time to listen to our fear

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Kali the Labrador, my closest living being, is in COVID19 lockdown with me.

She’s the leader here because, like her wolf ancestors, she lives out of instinct, attuned to unseen forces and energies. But if I pay attention, she gives me clues about how to be in service to an inner authority, rather than kowtowing to external systems I’ve absorbed from family, religious, political or cultural groups.

Understanding where our individual source of authority arises from becomes even more important when we are living isolated lives, watching the virus trample borders and dismantle social structures as it sweeps across the globe. In such a radically changed world, it can be difficult to get a grip on what our meaning and purpose is all about.

Endless internet trawling is one option for searching out what appears to be truth. Believe me, I could have a higher degree in it given the amount I’ve done. But whilst that can give information and a fragile sense of security, it does little to stabilise our inner basement where fears are waiting to haunt us when we wake in the night.

Working out my inner source of authority is not about ego, pretending I can do anything by forcing my own path through sheer determination and willpower. Neither is it about being rebellious or, wanting to undermine the system for the hell of it, although it can be read like that. Instead, it’s part of recognising that we are creatures caught in a bind. Encouraged to believe that the external world matters more and that our internal world is not real or scientifically validated.

Even though it’s still somewhat mysterious, I’m instinctively aware that there’s a source of wisdom deep within that’s not easily accessible. The strange thing is that it becomes more apparent when I pick myself up off the floor after making the same mistake, yet again. As I’ve begun to see my repeating patterns, I’ve formed a tentative willingness to face into and explore the reality of my inner world, all the while knowing that it can be a perilous journey.

The discomfort of that often brings on a process of questioning traditional sources of authority. In Living an Examined Life: Wisdom for the Second Half of the Journey, James Hollis argues that this process is akin to stepping out from under the parental shade to be able, through our own suffering, to come to consciousness and through being humbled to start anew.

Hollis is forceful in his view: ‘Only when the incestuous values of tribalism – the most emotionally seductive but psychologically primitive, culturally impoverished and dangerous idea of all – are transcended does renewal ever come to the person or group’.  That’s stark.

In my case, tribalism has been organised religion, but I’d never thought about it in quite the terms Hollis uses until the quote flew off the page at me. I reflected that although the Christian tradition has often been an open doorway for my spiritual development, it has equally been a trap demanding unquestioning conformity. This has been most apparent when I’ve challenged accepted theological positions and the right of the organisation to force me to go along with those. Others will have experienced similar things in family, political or cultural situations.

Despite that I remain deeply religious, that is, I lean into the mystery, the source of being and that which is more, but as I have come to understand it, not as an external authority tells me it is. This doesn’t happen easily.

What I’ve found is that my truth can only properly develop when I remain silent and still, tuned into my dreams and what rises to meet me from within, even although that’s sometimes terrifying. When I do this, I understand that this wondrous source of wisdom doesn’t lie out there, determined and mediated by others, but within.

My life’s work then becomes being responsible for my ongoing awakening and integration, however difficult and confronting that may be.

At the best of times that work is challenging. Right now, when we’re all aware that we’re not in control of the universe, or even in charge of going to the supermarket, it’s harder. No wonder there’s been a rush on toilet paper and a collective urge to wipe away fear.  

COVID 19 offers us a once in a lifetime opportunity. To stop. To let go of frantic, diversionary activity that fills the uncomfortable and unfamiliar space we find ourselves in. To put aside whatever has controlled us in the past. To invite our fears up from the basement for a cuppa at the kitchen table, asking what they have to teach us and listening intently to their wisdom. They know what matters most to us, as do our adoring cats and dogs.

13 Replies to “COVID 19: time to listen to our fear”

  1. Thanks yet again for such carefully considered evocative reflections. Your piece drew me again to Teilhard de Chardin who has a wonderful description (in “Le Milieu Divin” I think). In his description he dives and tunnels deep to find the source of the wellspring of his essential life. I’ll look for it once again and post it on Facebook once I find it. Be strong all of you who have to live alone. And to you again specially Sande: Thank You.

    1. Thanks so much George.
      I love that idea of diving and tunneling to find the wellspring.
      That reminds me of the movie, The Shape of Water.
      Please do post the quote. Would appreciate that.
      Living alone is fine. I’ve got Kali the Labrador!

  2. Thank you Sande, you give expression to a truth that is so needed and yet so often avoided at all costs. It is heartening to read you articulating the journey I am on. It is very hard work! But worth it even as we know that each ah-ha, each painful is not the final one. I am appreciating this pause while also wondring what new truth about me will surface!

    1. Thanks Gayanne
      It is hard work but it seems to me that if we shifted our priorities as people it would seem so normal to wrestle with these things instead of spending half our lives being diverted!

      Hope in the struggle there are moments of great joy.

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